Stressed to Zen – 3 ways to be calm, collected and in control!

How much fun do dogs have?

Have you ever noticed how dogs seem to enjoy every moment of their lives. Perhaps us humans can learn from them and be more dog like.

To have the ability to flop, switch off and relax, have a nap – just enjoying being present. The time to let go, without thinking or worrying about stuff, letting go of any stress or tension.

Exercise is a great way to let go of any tension, pent up feelings, and afterwards you feel so much better. Maybe that’s why dogs have a mad half hour running around, and then they just flop, have a nap and recover.

How do you switch off, let go and relax? Do you read a book before going to sleep at night, or do 30 minutes of daily exercise for exercise sake during the day. Does anyone still do jigsaws or puzzles any more?

Being able to stop and not do a great deal should be part of your daily self care routine, to allow your mind and body to re-set.

Do you know what stress is?


Calm & relaxed

Stress is how we react when we feel under pressure or threatened. It usually happens when we are in a situation that we don’t feel we can manage or control.

If you are stressed, you might feel:

  • Irritable, angry, impatient or wound up
  • Over-burdened or overwhelmed
  • Anxious, nervous or afraid
  • Like your thoughts are racing and you can’t switch off
  • Unable to enjoy yourself
  • Depressed
  • Uninterested in life
  • Like you’ve lost your sense of humour
  • A sense of dread
  • Worried or tense
  • Neglected or lonely
  • Existing mental health problems getting worse

Some people who go through severe stress may experience suicidal feelings. This can be very distressing.

Stress is part of our every day life, everyone has stress to some level and some stress can be good. Good stress is short-term and it inspires and motivates you, focuses your energy and enhances performance. Bad stress, however, is the kind that wears you out, leaves you jittery and is harmful to your health.

Here are 3 things you can do to help lower your stress levels

When you are feeling very stressed.

  1. Stop – whatever you are doing, leave the room if you’re with others (go to the loo). Focus on breathing from your abdomen, slowly and steadily. Then focus on what you can see, hear, touch or smell – ground yourself. Be present and be mindful.
  2. Start living life 24 hours at a time, just one day at a time. You cannot change the past and until next week, 6 months or 3 year’s time becomes today – there is nothing you can do about it. Yes you can book things and put them in the diary, but after that until it becomes that day you cannot do anything as such. If you worry about the future, you’re stressed or anxious – you are creating a future that hasn’t happened – why would you do that. Don’t look back to what did or didn’t happen, you cannot change it but you can learn from it.
  3. Use balloons to let go of negative emotions!

When you feel a negative emotion, the more time you give it and the more you focus on it – you are giving it power. So if you have a red balloon, you can blow all your anger or frustration into, filling the balloon as you get rid of it from your body. Once the balloon is at it’s biggest and you’ve blown all the anger or frustration into it, you have 2 choices. 1 let it go pft or tie a knot in it and burst it, sit on it, jump on it – get rid of it. Feeling flat, blue or overwhelmed, use a blue balloon. Feeling bored, lonely or fed up, you could use a yellow balloon. If someone is causing you to feel the way you feel, you could dray their face on it or write their name on it.

4 Bonus Big One –
Daily exercise for 30 minutes of more. Exercise for exercise sake, get your heart rate elevated and be slightly out of breath. Exercise helps to lower stress levels, helps you to sleep better, lose weight and tone up, it also makes you more positive and happier.

Guess what happens if you don’t deal with your stress – you get more stressed? Click here to listen to a free relaxation session

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1 Comment

  1. Andy on August 19, 2022 at 12:16 pm

    What a great read this is.
    Thanks for sharing.

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